Why do you shop? Is it to purchase things that you need, or purchase things that you want? Or both? Do you shop because you like pretty things? Or do you shop out of fear of not keeping up with the Joneses?
And how do you shop? If your motivation for shopping is because you care what other people think, does that mean you will only shop fine retailers, even if you’re shopping for an item that you could easily find used for sale online and save some money? Or, do you hate shopping so much so that you’ll pay any price for what you need so long as getting it is convenient? Maybe you only shop online.
I love to shop, mainly because I find it exciting, fun, and entertaining. I get a rush, and if I’m not careful about it, I could easily become addicted. But I monitor myself, because, after all, I don’t want to be irresponsible. And while I love to shop, I hate spending money. That’s quite a conundrum, isn’t it? (Actually, I think it’s because I hate to spend money that keeps me from becoming a shopping addict.)
What keeps shopping exciting for me is bargain hunting. Moments when I’ve found spectacular pieces at dirt cheap prices become vivid memories that I keep forever, like the time I got a Trina Turk wrap dress at Savers for only $7. And, there was the the time I found an authentic Carlos Falchi crocodile clutch that I know originally retailed for close to $2,000, which I bought for only $25 at Goodwill. I mean, to me, moments like that are accomplishments, times that I’m proud of. (I know, it’s silly.)
The fun part of shopping is when I’m shopping for pretty things, like the newest trends or makeup. I’m a very girly girl. I love glitter, the color pink, and anything that shines. I’m easily seduced by new fashion trends, designer labels, and luxe fabrication. And if I see something that piques my interest in a magazine or on Instagram, I become filled with a consuming lust until I find said object. I enjoy acquiring the things I desire.
Then there is the entertaining part of shopping. The happens when I make my shopping experience a social one. Now, everyone wants to go shopping with me, and I actually do get a little irritated with that, because those same people expect me to style them while we shop. And if I do that, well then shopping becomes a job, a chore, not an entertaining experience. As a result, I had to create a rule. I only shop with besties and really good friends. Otherwise, I’m going to have to charge a fee. But for besties and really good friends, my shopping and style tips are free. Shopping with my squad is always filled with laughter, dirty jokes, and wine. That’s the best way to shop.
There is no wrong or right way to feel about shopping. But as is the case with all things in life, be mindful. Respect your budget. Respect the time of the salesperson helping you. Respect the other shoppers. And, don’t be wasteful. Even if your pockets are deep, only buy the things you will actually use or enjoy. Don’t hoard. And don’t expect stuff to make you happy. Everything you experience in life should bring you value. And that includes shopping.